Posted by alexandra_k on May 11, 2005, at 2:13:26
In reply to Re: Susan and Alex, my responses..., posted by Susan47 on May 10, 2005, at 20:12:01
> Okay, what if the professional dumps you into the void because you ASKED him to,
Hmm. What if the professional sleeps with you because you ASKED him to?
Doesn't matter what you do and do not ask for they are supposed to be professional.
>But his pain caused him to be unable to love anybody wholly, as a whole person, and he pretty much was the last nail in my emotional coffin.
Sh*t.
I'm like that Susan.
Nobody ever better fall for me...I know you aren't a bad person.
And you wouldn't hurt intentionally.
Or if you did lash out then you really really would regret that (or maybe thats just me....)
I do lash out sometimes :-(
But I'm tryin to get better with that.Oh. You went on to say that too...
I think it is hard.
When people are in a lot of pain.
When it is so very obvious that they are in a lot of pain.
Then other people (clinicians) just want to try and get the pain to stop.
But they can't.
They can't make the pain stop.
But they can help you feel a bit better...
But sometimes they don't even seem to be doing that.
They don't know what to do.
Sometimes I can see that happening.
They withdraw because they start to feel helpless.
Inadequate.I think...
I think thats why Linehan talks about having to teach clients how to care for their therapists and look after them.So that they don't feel helpless.
But I don't know.
I don't.
I just know that i could never figure out what the hell I was supposed to do so I could keep them.
And at the end of the day they run away from me as fast as they f*cking can.But no more.
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