Posted by alexandra_k on May 8, 2005, at 5:52:39
In reply to This Is Your Option, posted by Susan47 on May 7, 2005, at 20:18:56
T's are human beings.
They are fallable.
Like you or me.
They have their own needs and desires.
Their own failings and weaknesses.
When my last psychologist terminated me
I sent her emails.
Horrible emails
Pleading emails
But my anger melted away when she told me
That she had to terminate me because she was getting sick herself
Because she didn't know how to help me
And she couldn't see that she didn't have to DO anything
She couldn't see that.
So because of her weakness I got terminated
And nobody would work with me for a while
Until p-doc picked me up.The psychologist before that terminated me.
She said she thought it would be a good idea if we had a break.
I didn't want to
I pleaded with her not to do that
But she wouldn't see me for a month.
She said I needed to have a "good hard think"
But really she didn't want to see me.
She just wouldn't admit to that.
Then she went away for three months.
Three months.
When she returned she said she wanted to assess me before 'we' decided whether we would keep working together.
She assessed me.
Then terminated me.
She wrote a report saying that I had shown no progress with 3 years of psychotherapy. That the evidence indicated that psychotherapy was of no use to me and it was pointless to waste future resources on me.She blamed me.
I think that is what is so hard.
When they blame you.
Or when they don't tell you why and they let you blame yourself.But I guess they have defences just like the rest of us...
And it is 'normal' to blame others for negative events anyway... They blame us and it helps them carry on.
Lucky them, aye.
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