Posted by Susan47 on March 2, 2005, at 12:01:40
In reply to kind alex » alexandra_k, posted by Toph on March 2, 2005, at 7:51:10
This is breaking my heart, Toph, I feel that way about the damage in my relationship with my 21 year-old son too. I think if your son really knew how you feel, that you see things now, places where you were wrong, he would heal. I don't believe that thing about never healing. I don't think it's true. If I thought that were true, there would be no hope for me. And I know I can heal; now I have to do it without my father, but I can tell you that it would have been much easier to heal and I would've healed much sooner had my father been of the same mindset that you are, and HAD COMMUNICATED THAT WITH ME. Sorry to yell. I'll bet when you're honest with your son about your self-knowledge, you won't need to feel like you have to impress anybody because you will have done the thing your heart really needs to do.
And now I'll get off my soapbox, feel free to spank me if you think I've been bad.
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