Posted by alexandra_k on November 4, 2005, at 16:11:03
In reply to Apologies » alexandra_k, posted by ClearSkies on November 4, 2005, at 5:16:33
> Alexandra - you have made 2 apologies on the boards in one day. How do you feel about posting words you feel you must later apologize for?
Well. At the time I guess I feel okay about posting them - which is why I post them. Later, when I apologise I really am genuine. Its not so much that I wish I could take back what I have said. Its more that I wish I could have phrased my response a lot more sympathetically, open mindedly, etc.
> What affect do you think those posts have on the others who read and post here, keeping in mind that these are public discussions and not private; and that others are interested in the subjects being discussed?Well. I think different people respond differently. Some people find me to be something along the lines of a breath of fresh air. Some other peoples responses can be summarised something along the lines of AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARGH
But I don't mean to hurt.
And when people feel hurt
belittled
like I have stomped on them
That is not my intention
And I'm prepared to work to changing my behaviour (best I can)
To minimise that.
> I hold my tongue lately.Well done.
That can be quite a feat.
Another option is to put it in word.
I do that a fair bit and then go over it and be very careful abotu how I phrase that.
I should have done that with a few of my posts from here and from politics yesterday.
But i didn't.And... I may well get a blocking.
>I write many responses to posts, and then do not confirm them, because I'm not looking for debate or argument, and feel that's what would result in my posting. It's stifling.
Do you look for debate or argument?
Is the implication being that thats what I'm doing?
Maybe also...
But never just.
I assure you of that.Debate / argument isn't personal...
It is what I do
It is part of who I amBut hurting people...
No, thats not supposed to be a part of that.
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