Posted by llurpsienoodle on November 15, 2008, at 9:45:14
In reply to TC said about what I would have... » Deneb, posted by Racer on November 15, 2008, at 0:46:19
hi deneb,
I know you're feeling crappy lately... But I think there are opportunities here-- you were able to recognize the trigger AND the memory it triggered. Rather than just having a vague sense of unhappiness, you were able to make the link between this recent chat-room exclusion and a previous episode of exclusion. That's HUGE!!!I'm so sorry that your family hasn't been there for you, emotionally. It makes it hard to learn self-regulation. Now you're learning it as an adult (which is VERY vERY impressive). So many folks never put in the effort to understand their feelings, (triggers, memories, reactions... etc) and they have constant struggles throughout their lifetimes. But you are working really hard, to understand and work on adaptive ways to respond to intense negative emotions. I'm sorry it's so hard right now.
Is there anything going on in your life that is adding to your stress, perhaps making it harder to stay emotionally balanced?
Is there anything you can do to help stay afloat in troubled times? You mentioned that you are on a walking regimen-- can you use walking as a tool for self-regulation of difficult emotions?
Keep up the hard work. I hope you have a better day today.
-Ll
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