Posted by Fallen4MyT on January 13, 2005, at 1:14:14
In reply to Re: What's so wrong with me? **possible trigger**, posted by Angel Girl on January 12, 2005, at 3:59:28
Friends should BUT also friend sadly have limits and boundaries even issues that make it hard for them to deal with someone elses issues so it may be a self preservation issue. For example I still care about a friend of mine but cannot be around her as she triggers things in me that leaves bad feelings and thoughts that would be detrimental to MY health...so I HAD to cut her loose. Its not her fault or even mine..we are like oil and water. Still I want the best for her and if roles were reversed would want her to cut herself off from me if I ( not meaning to) messed with her emotional well being. Friends want the best for freind and sometimes thats a lot of space and not to be friends that stay in touch odd as that sounds. Its like a ex drunk and a drunk....they may care but need to stay away.
>>>All in all, the bottom line is I scared the hell out of them and they had reached their limit. I realize that there is only so much that people can take but doesn't a *true* friend stand by you when the going gets rough, or are friends just for the good times? I guess I overstayed my welcome. I just find it hard giving the end result and knowing how things used to be before I realized I was BP. :( >>
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