Posted by Racer on May 20, 2004, at 20:02:26
In reply to Re: Body acceptance, posted by Ilene on May 20, 2004, at 19:46:21
OMG! You just kinda described my mother, except that her gifts to me were usually more expensive than she could really afford. She tried, and I know now and even knew then that she did the best she could -- kinda -- so it's hard to validate my own hurt by them.
I hate to sound flippant, but it really seems like all our mothers here went to the same MomSchool, don't you think? Hm... Maybe some connection between all this and our being here?
My mother still kinda does it, too. It's not so much that she buys gifts that I've already said I don't want, though. And example: while we're very different in build, neither one of us has ever been able to wear Levi's jeans. My waist is nearer my armpits than to my hips, and the rise just cuts into my crotch. So, we both buy Eddie Bauer jeans, which do fit us both. The other day, needing a pair of jeans that fit, Mother said, "Well, since Eddie Bauer didn't have jeans you liked (read: my size), let's go to Mervyn's -- they have Levi's." Thanks, but if the problem is not having jeans that fit, how exactly does that help? She meant well, that I know and believe, but it is a bit clueless -- since I'm not 17 anymore...
Anyway, just a bit about it.
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