Posted by karen_kay on April 22, 2004, at 9:49:41
In reply to Thoughts vs. emotions, posted by Ilene on April 22, 2004, at 9:10:05
i stop what i'm doing, i take a few (or a hundred, how ever many i need) deep breaths and i positive self talk. i remember all the times i've been in situations such as this one where i thought to myself, 'there you go, you've done it this time. you're screwed.' and somehow i've managed to come out of it. and i tell myself, 'it isn't as bad as your mind is making this out to be. this is just a reaction you are having to the stress you are putting yourself through. take deep breaths, in and out. and you are wonderful karen. once you get through this, you'll be back to walking through the grass and swinging on swing sets, and walking the dog, and picking flowers from the university campus, and flirting with your porfessors, and laughing about every little thing that no one else finds funny. you just have to make it through this. and tomorrow, or perhaps next week, this won't seem like such a big deal after all. in fact, perhaps next week even, you'll be laughing about your reaction to this. so, calm down dear, go do what needs to be done, as you know you can and will get it done, and remember that even though every one else in this world loves and (and they surely do) you love you the most and that's what's important. you can do it girlie, so take a few more deep breaths and go kick a$$!!"
usually i say something similar to that. who needs logic when you're your own biggest fan? but, remembering how i got through past situations and got through them well helps me make it through ones that are in the present. not recalling them, but remembering that they aren't a big deal now, as i seemed to think they would be at the time. also remembering that there are people who love me (and it's ok to pretend (and am i really pretending i ask) that everyone loves me too if it gets me through) that's what i usually do. it may or may not help you, but it works wonders for me...
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