Posted by gardenergirl on March 27, 2004, at 15:48:35
In reply to Re: Help with office drama! » gardenergirl, posted by Karen_kay on March 27, 2004, at 15:32:15
KK,
I think I like approach number one. I tend to be a goofball in the office anyway, although perhaps not as overtly as you. But anyway, Nardil has really brought the old, goofy, groan at the sense of humor me. (I'm so glad she's back!). "A" does often laugh at me and wonder if I'm drunk or whatever. She thinks of me as a breath of fresh air. But the last few days, she just ignores or shuts down. And I can't help but be personally offended at the name calling she did about my friend. It was a very personal attack, not just the generic "bi"tch" word. I swear, if I hear it again, I will call her on it as calmly and behaviorally as possible.I don't really want to deal with it via going upstairs to my boss, but he is already somewhat invovled as B went to him the other day. I have a weird position in that I have some administrative authority over the second year students upstairs, but I am officially a peer with my office mates. But I get treated by all as the leader/boss in some things, although not clinically. It's a weird dynamic. But I think it does put me square in the middle.
I have had really wonderful one on one conversations in the past with her. We laughed, we cried, etc. We even talked about race issues in the program and how hard it is for her to be the only minority in our cohort. That's what's so puzzling to me. I felt like we had established a trust and a relationship. But right now it's all shut down. I hope once her CCE's are done, she will get back to the usual A, which was still sometimes hard to deal with, but at least more rational.
Thanks for the advice and of course the visuals! Office is too small for cartwheels, but I have a great pair of orange giant sunglasses which make me look like Jimmy Neutron. I love to put them on and see how long it takes for people to notice.
gg
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