Posted by Karen_kay on March 27, 2004, at 15:32:15
In reply to Help with office drama!, posted by gardenergirl on March 27, 2004, at 14:16:09
Ok, in this situation here's what I'd do...
One of two things..
1. When you feel the tension building, I'd try to liven the whole atmosphere up by briefly mentioning, "It's no panties Friday. Ladies, who's playing?" or doing cartwheels (in slacks of course), singing a goofy song, throwing yourself on the ground and complaning that you just have to hump something, anything.. It works for me because I can get away with doing things like that. Once I saw a smile on her face, I'd say, "I really need some fresh air. Let's get outside, away from these people (stick out your tongue at everyone else)." Then, when I had her outside, away from the atmosphere, just listen to her. Explain that things like this haven't happened in the past. Chances are she's just having a rough time at home right now and bringing it to work with her. I'm sure she'd appreciate knowing that she does have a friend in the office and talking about it will help her. Also, I'm sure that your friend in the office won't see it as you "choosing sides" just as conflict management and avoidance.
OR:
2. Ignore her and hope for the best. I think though if you avoid it, or try talking it out with everyone involved, she'll really feel "ganged up on." Since you seem to be a neutral party, you seem to be the perfect person to approach her and talk it out. I've just found that putting that smile on someone's face before talking about a situation lets them know that you are a friend and on their side. I wouldn't suggest approaching a supervisor or talking it out with everyone involved, as she seems "persecuted" in the first place and this will only make things worse. Let her know that you are on her side or at least not picking sides. And please don't patronize her by placing a book on her desk. I fear that would put her over the edge. Also, find out if you can move the radio to a different desk or on the floor. Or switch her desks. Sometimes people are finicky, but imagine what you'll be taking home with you if you help remedy this situation and make her feel better. Good luck dear. I wish you well!
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