Posted by Dog on December 15, 2003, at 14:41:23
In reply to Re: Surreal, posted by DeeJay on December 15, 2003, at 14:00:29
Deej,
how long have you been taking the Wellbutrin and what strength... is it the XL?i think you're doing fine. if you two really love each other, there's really no reason you shouldn't then, just look at the books, please... he sounds like a good guy.
has he proposed? perhaps thats just it: he hasn't formally proposed... guys can be so clueless sometimes...how long have you two been together?
it was something when i proposed to my wife: i was so stupid... i was about to preach to a fairly large inter-faith service for Thanksgiving and they'd chosen my church to host it and me to preach...all of the area pastors and their congregations..my Church was packed! at least 300 people , which was quite alot in that small sanctuary...one of the administrative board members was scolding me for not having enough bulletins/order of service sheets made up... though i had almost enough, it worked out everyone could just share...the children had been taking them also as they came in, and they could just share with their parents, i told him.. he was nervous because he hadn't seen that many in his church before... we were standing in my office, the ad board guy and my future wife and i...the guy would notleave so i could propose!.. finally i just told him i had to discuss something with my fiance in private and so he finally left...my fiance lived several hours away from my church and had travelled a long way with my mother, grandma, sister and bro in law...i was so nervous, i forgot to ask her and just handed her the ring! she said, well, aren't you going to ask me? i said, "oh yeah, will you marry me?" she said yes...i didn't realize so many things...like, i should have gotten down on one knee to propose... i still apologize to her... its just that there was so much going on at once!...before i preached a few minutes later, i announced it to the people and got a terrific applause...
in a marriage, there are so many fantasic things like that that happen, but, at least in my marriage, there has been some bad times... when the bad times are happening, it seems the bad outweigh the good, but they really don't... it just seems that way..then ,things get better: they always do!Dog
> I think I just didn't send my response...or something strange happened..who knows! You have a profound response that makes me wonder. I never would have thought of the birth order of things affecting a relationship. Hmmmm....and the age thing...I know I'm 24, a baby. But I feel like I'm 50 sometimes. I hate to be alone but I hate to be babied and smothered, and sometimes I feel that way. Since out postings, I have expressed this to him, and he agrees he can be that way sometimes....but can't help it. He loves me. And I love him. He's the best thing that has ever happened to me, the most healthy, I just get so overwhelmed with the idea of marriage sometimes. I have been in 2 weddings in the past 3 months, and neither one of them has made me want to get married like so many girls do.
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> I also think being raised by men my whole life has fuzzied my fantasy of marriage. It's not something I strove for. Instead, I wanted to be self-sufficient, fix my own car, do things on my own...but with someone next to me. I have that now, but still can't put my finger on what I'm doing. I really think my medication going on's and coming off's are affecting me and so does my beau. He's extremely patient, however, if I even so much as mention marriage, he's a drooler and would do it in a heartbeat, so I keep that at bay.
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> I can be a real headache to live with, so I have to give him credit. But the "i'm 24" thing sometimes rings in my head...but that shouldn't matter. I've had crap. I've loved crap...and ended up feeling like crap. Now I just have normal, don't want crap, but want to feel anything but crap, even though I still do.
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> Hmmm. Make sense?....
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> Sorry about the *ghost posts* I don't have a clue what's goin' on in my comp today..;p
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> Thanks for the book advice...I will check into them over a caramel apple cider at Starbucks...(corporate coffee, noooo!)
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> Cheers
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> Deej
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