Posted by Dog on December 15, 2003, at 9:45:55
In reply to Re: Surreal, posted by DeeJay on December 15, 2003, at 8:53:17
Deej,
you have to be careful with the wellbutrin as far as a schedule goes... you have to be almost exact in your habits regarding time of taking it, or headaches occur...as long as you take the same time every day, you should be alright...of course, i am only speaking from my experience and i have found if i don't take it or take it at different times, etc., i will get a headache or just otherwise feel out of it until i get on a schedule again...Deej, please take this as advice from a friend:
you and your boyfriend are "last-borns", you're both the babies of your nuclear families...not good for long-term relationships... one of you, probably both, will have to change in profound ways... very difficult to do...you would be a much better match with a first-born or an only-born child...there's good and bad to being a last-born... i know it sounds funny, but the birth order is a construct i have found works for predicting the success of inter-personal intimate relationships... at least it shows which will be more or less difficult, usually in a profound way...check out Kevin Lehmans book about birth-order...those are two books i highly recommend for pre-marrieds: the Oldham book and the Lehman one...they are just excellent and they're not like text-books, but are interesting reads...even if you're not contemplating marriage, these give you very helpful insights into your self and others...take my word for it as i have been around the block a few times and have read quite a few books and have had not a little formal training...
my wife and i are both babies in our respective families...we have, and still do, have problems, which would have been alot easier if we were not both babies...our birth-order in our growing up years affected us so profoundly...very difficult to change deep ways...of course there are personalities that are of last-borns that will work together, but not all that common... takes some tremendous work... i think if you're not too into this guy yet, start playing the field a bit... ask God to send you someone and to tell you who it is once he's sent to you! keep in mind a first-born...
our older sibs, though we might not realize it, took care of us somehow... we were the babies of our families and everyone took care of us! its not that we're necessarily needy or anything, but its just the personality thing and how we inter-act with others... its OK w/ friendships usually, but the profound intimacy of marriage makes it very difficult...its also not that we're inferior at all either, we have strengths other birth ordered ones don't..
does this guy really love you? do you really love him? are you committed to him? you are 24 years old! don't make any long-term committments if you don't feel its time... there will be others...Please don't just be in love with being in love... and, be open to God! He'll show you someone, if you let Him!
Dog
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