Posted by fallsfall on November 28, 2003, at 13:56:33
In reply to Re: Today, posted by geri122 on November 28, 2003, at 13:31:20
Geri,
It really is important for you to get some other people involved.
Your parents wouldn't have to understand how you are feeling in order to help you. All they need to understand is that you are seriously depressed and you need some professional help. Do you think that they could understand that much?
I understand the embarrassed part. I have found, though, that most of the people who I have talked to about my depression are very understanding - and most of them either are taking anti-depressants or have a close friend or relative who are taking anti-depressants. Just noone talks about it, so each person sits in their own little world thinking that they are the only one. You aren't the only one.
What would your parents think? You think that they wouldn't believe you, and think you are just looking for attention. So, how could you show them that you are serious? Could you print out a couple of your posts, and show them that you have been unhappy for the whole month, and that it is getting worse (maybe show them the one about your principal checking to see if you were OK?). I would think that would convince them that you are serious.
It is hard to tell people private things about ourselves - particularly when they aren't particularly positive private things. But think about how you would feel when you would be embarrassed to tell your parents. Then think how you felt on Wednesday night (and last night??). Is the embarrassment really worse than that? Once they knew that you had an illness that needed treatment, wouldn't your embarrassment go away? Would you feel better if your friend was sitting next to you when you told them?
I really think that you should talk to a professional in the next week. I found that if I had an appointment scheduled that I could hold on until that time - and you have done a great job of holding on so far. But it really helps me to know that I will have some help a some definate time in the future.
I know you just want to pretend that it isn't real, but Geri, it is real. I'm sorry. When it gets to this point you really have to take some action. You need to talk to a counsellor, or therapist, or doctor. If you really can't ask your parents for help, then we need to think of another adult that you CAN ask for help. Who do you think you could talk to?
Do you know what would happen when you went to see someone? I can talk about what that would be like. If you knew what it was about it might not be so scary. Do you know anyone who is in therapy? Could you talk to them?
I really do know how hard this is. I remember being so scared to call my doctor, and to go to see him. But I'm really glad I did.
I'm glad you are going to see your friend. Please tell her that you are feeling so, so awful. Ask her for a hug. Then tell her that I would like her to give you an extra hug and you can know that this one is from me.
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