Posted by wendy b. on June 17, 2003, at 7:05:46
In reply to Re: I'm scared, please help » kara lynne, posted by Emme on June 16, 2003, at 22:44:29
Emme & Kara,
> He is cruel - what he said to you should never be said to anyone. He attacked you about things you feel sensitive about, and even wanted you out in the middle of the night!!
Yes, that is the other atrocity, and I forgot to mention it... When they go for your jugular by listing the "faults" you have explained to them as"illness" (not that they get it), that is the WORST thing any significant other or family member can do. The absolute worst thing, playing off your own insecurities, the ones you've shared in a moment of intimacy or difficulty. i.e., you might say, wanting reassurance: "I withdraw when I'm depressed..." And then they attack on that point. It's been done to me soooo many times, by experts in the field of projection and lashing out...
>Nothing this guy says deserves any credibility. I know it's hard, but fight your best not to internalize what he said about you. YOU DO DESERVE LOVE AND ALL GOOD THINGS. (I'm seething on your behalf.)
Christ, so am I. No one deserves this kind of cruelty. I'm just so glad he has "revealed" himself for what he is, and you can move on in your life.
best wishes, and have a good Tuesday, Kara Lynne...
Wendy
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