Posted by Greg on June 16, 2003, at 17:21:31
In reply to Re: I'm scared, please help, posted by kara lynne on June 16, 2003, at 16:34:09
Kara,
We’ve never spoken before, but I have read your posts and you don’t come across as hateful or hideous to me. These types of fights where one blames the other for their lot in life can be nasty to say the least. You can rest assured that you aren’t to blame for the bad choices he’s made in his life. Quite simply, you don’t have that power. But it is easy for him to make you the scapegoat, especially if he thinks you will buy into it.
It always hurts to lose a relationship, it’s never easy if there was love there. But it sounds like to me that this one is poisoning you, and that’s never a good thing. I’m hoping that you have a safe, secure place where you can go, hopefully with a friend or family where you can get some unconditional love that you deserve. I doubt that you’re the bad person that you think you are, but when we’re told that long enough, we begin to believe it. I have a feeling that you’re one of the many loving and caring people on this board who wouldn’t hesitate a moment to reach out her hand to someone who needed help.
Kara, you have important things in your life that you need and want to do. Step away from these distractions, however painful that might be, and take care of you. Remember that no matter what happens, in order to survive our disorders, we have to make our own well-being the number one priority in our lives.
The next time you look in the mirror, try to see the person that the others here see, a worthwhile human being. You have to see with better eyes. You’re worth it.
Wishing you all the best,
Greg
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