Posted by noa on April 2, 2003, at 18:05:46
In reply to Re: sad truth is.. » kara lynne, posted by WorryGirl on April 2, 2003, at 15:49:35
>> it says a lot about a man's character if they can't even pick up a tab with a wine or two or glass of water on it!
I'm not sure it says a lot about a man's character, but, in our culture, it could be saying a lot about what the date means to him, what his intentions are, etc. Ie, in our culture, I think it is widely expected that men who are "wooing" women do carry the burden of asking, paying, being chivalrous, etc. A man who doesn't engage in at least some of these behaviors probably isn't conveying a lot of motivation.
But I don't think it says much about character, per se. And the conventions we have around dating are kind of rigid, if you think about it.
The point, though is that you are someone who wants that kind of traditional approach. So if you know what you want, that can help you go out and seek it!
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