Posted by Dinah on April 2, 2003, at 6:45:55
In reply to Re: my date is ruined already, posted by Tabitha on April 2, 2003, at 0:12:36
Awww, sweet Tabitha, I'm sorry. But perhaps before you totally write off the date, you should ask him if he has a pressing engagement elsewhere that keeps him from picking you up himself. Or maybe in this day and age he thought you would feel safer to have your own transportation.
I remember one of the very few dates I had with someone other than my now husband was with someone I didn't really know, and who wasn't a friend of friends. I insisted on meeting him at a neutral location.
Perhaps, just perhaps, he was trying to be sensitive to any reluctance on your part to having him pick you up at your home. At any rate, I think I'm going to have to side with your therapist on this one. (Sorry, I know that's as annoying as siding with your mother). It can't hurt to ask him straight out what his reasons were. If the answer stinks, you just might save yourself a bad date. If it was all a misunderstanding, you might save yourself a good date. (And didn't we practice all that directness with our therapists for a reason?)
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