Posted by noa on April 2, 2003, at 18:13:27
In reply to Re: my date is ruined already...maybe not » Tabitha, posted by Greg on April 2, 2003, at 18:06:05
Truth is, we're programmed this way--it is part of the mating rituals to see men who can provide security as attractive potential mates. Have you ever seen the Bower birds on nature shows? The males build these elaborate "homes" out of twigs and leaves, and decorate them beautifully. They are architecturaly beautiful. Some of them stage a whole scene of a beautiful shelter adorned at the entrances with "jewels"--colorful and shiny objects, like stones and fruits, etc. I don't think they actually end up using the bowers that were build for purposes of alluring the female--it is just something to show their prowess at providing!
So I think that we might find chivalry attractive, because we are built to do so. However, we're not birds--we've evolved brains that have more complex ways of looking at things, so we don't have to necessarily be enslaved to our evolutionary "scripts"--we have the choice. But it could account, at least in part, for what attracts us, at least initially.
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