Posted by rayww on January 21, 2003, at 9:43:21
In reply to Anger, Honesty, Me, You, posted by shar on January 20, 2003, at 12:22:35
Great thinking here. So, if an employee comes wreathing into the office of her employeer demanding he oil the hinge of her squeaky door, what she is really saying is, "I need to know you care about me as a person". If I were that employeer, I would set that at the top of my priorities, and rather than assign it to someone else, dress the part, come into work early, go through the complete ritual of being the mechanic, and fix the squeaky door.
If my mom, who I haven't visited for awhile calls and in a grouchy voice says she needs her bulletin board recovered because it bugs her every time she looks at it, and her hair needs trimmed, and she needs new apron strings sewn onto her apron before it drives her around the bend, I should realize the issue is not the bulletin board, the apron, or her hair as much as her own unmet emotional needs, wherein these other things simply fall into the well, and follow the conduit to the pit of her pain. By healing the "things" I also heal her pain.
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