Posted by coral on January 21, 2003, at 4:53:52
In reply to Anger, Honesty, Me, You, posted by shar on January 20, 2003, at 12:22:35
Dear Shar:
Ahh, I do so enjoy your posts!
SHAR: Someone said something about being brutally honest when angry and that reminded me of a quote I read "the person who is brutally honest enjoys the brutality as much as the honesty."
Me: I couldn't agree more. "I'm just being frank," or "I'm just being honest" as an excuse to deliver blisteringly painful messages is extreme cruelty. In my experience, such people do this whether they're angry or not. They either don't care about the other person's feelings or they enjoy the brutality.
Am I brutal when I'm angry? I don't know. You mentioned "righteous" anger. I suppose this would fall in that category. My father was in a medically-induced coma and a doctor came in and started to do something. I asked the doctor who he was and what he was doing. He said he was a doctor, giving a treatment and for me not to interfere. I physically moved between my father and the doctor and said, "You're not touching my father until I know who you are and what you're doing." Turns out, the doctor was in the wrong room, wrong patient. Of course, it could've turned out differently - perhaps he'd been asked by my father's doctor to do something ....
As always, you've given me food for thought!
xoxoxo
Coral
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