Posted by M. Lee on January 19, 2003, at 15:00:34
In reply to Re: Question re: Anger M Lee, posted by coral on January 19, 2003, at 14:01:12
> I think that has to do with the fact that most people say things in anger they don't mean so when the fight's over, people apologize for what they've said. In good conscience, I can't apologize for the content, although I can apologize for being tactless. Like you, I don't get to that point of anger very often. In fact, it's quite rare. However, I can get there very fast if there is a clear threat - typically to someone else.
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> In an earlier post, someone said it was a fear of being out of control or a need to be in control for them. For me, being in control doesn't even factor into the equation. I simply am in absolute control.I've been trying to figure out how and why I get to that place.
I, also, feel that it is not a control thing (like you described, I _am_ in control)
I'm wondering it if it's because I tend to hold back on things that bother me for too long. Like, maybe after being frustrated (and emtionally upset) by not being able to express myself tactfully, I then get "fed up" and "beyond" emotional. Just say what I feel without holding _anything_ back. It's kind of like a huricane - those around me say they feel the gale, but at the eye of the storm there is not the slightest breeze...
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