Posted by ROO on December 13, 2002, at 13:03:35
In reply to Re: Guilt » NikkiT2, posted by wendy b. on December 12, 2002, at 14:15:19
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> Someone advised me this: if she were REALLY
suicidal, she wouldn't be moaning and crying
- she'd be actively doing something. He said
I would know whether or not to take her to the
emergency room (and my gut told me she didn't
need to go right then). He saw it as
manipulative and hurtful. I would think what
your "friend" is doing to you also qualifies as
manipulative...
This post kind of stuck with me and made me feel bad. I'm not sure
why. I guess because I have suicidal thoughts lately and I struggle
with whether to tell my friends or not. On the one hand, they're my
friends and I feel like I should be able to share with them what I"m going
through, and friends should be able to talk about their deep pain together...on
the other hand...of course I don't want to "burden them" and of course my deepest
fear would be that I would be seen somehow as "manipulative"...what an awful thing.When is telling friends how you are feeling going over into the line of being
manipulative? I wanna know because I don't want to be manipulative, but I also
don't want to feel like I have to keep everything buried inside. If you're feeling
suicidal is the ONLY appropriate person to tell your therapist?If anything, I tend to isolate and NOT tell friends when I'm feeling suicidal...the
more suicidal I feel, the less likely I am to talk about it. When I do talk about it, I'll
usually say "I've been having a lot of suicidal THOUGHTS", I won't threaten suicide. Sometimes
I feel friends maybe SHOULD be aware of just how seriously horrible I feel at times, but then
I feel "what's really the point" because there's nothing they could do for me anyway.>
poster:ROO
thread:33265
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