Posted by Gracie2 on July 3, 2002, at 18:20:12
In reply to Re: losing mom » tabitha, posted by Reneb on June 30, 2002, at 21:28:39
I went through a long period where I was grieving over my son. I had not "lost" him through death,
only that he was getting older and did not need me anymore. We had been so close while he was growing up, but as he grew older we became distant. I tried to tell myself that it was healthy and natural for him to leave me and start his own life. But I missed him and his affection so much, I was in constant pain.
Then I read the book "Angela's Ashes", a true story of a poor family in Ireland. Angela, the mother, endured extreme suffering through her alcoholic husband, who rarely worked and drank his wages when he did. The Catholic family continued to produce children who died or suffered from starvation and want.
I tried to put myself in the place of this poor woman, Angela, who watched her children die, who tried to sleep while her children cried from "the hunger", who was unable to provide them with decent clothes or shoes.
At least I had the good memories of my own son's childhood. I was able to feed him and provide him with medical care, regular meals, clothes, books, toys, sports.
I decided that even though my son and I no longer enjoyed the close relationship that I had treasured for so many years, at least I had these wonderful memories.
That's how you should think of your Mom - you should appreciate the memories. I never got along with my own Mom - she's selfish, selfish, selfish.
-Gracie
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