Posted by tabitha on June 30, 2002, at 17:37:07
In reply to Re: still working this... » tabitha, posted by Reneb on June 29, 2002, at 20:32:49
I'm so sorry about your mom. Mine died March 9, 1995. I was in a strong state of grief for 2 years, then it started to change. I'd go back into grief around the anniversary of her death, or when something reminded me of her. Now it comes and goes. I believe it's a lifelong process. This may sound odd, but now I almost welcome the sadness, since it means I'm still connected to her. I have a lot more love for her now than when she was alive, since our relationship was tense. I'm grateful for that.About the dreams, she never really talks to me. Shortly after her death, I had a beautiful dream with me and her and her mother (who died a year before she did), where we were all dancing together. It was so precious! Lately she just appeared as her normal self in a couple of dreams, just "there" doing nothing special.
Losing her was the hardest thing I ever went through, but there were also blessings. Before she died I didn't really know how to grieve any type of loss, which contributed to my depressions. I was lucky to have a good therapist and one good friend to help me through it.
A cliche but true -- your mom will always live in your heart.
-tabitha
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