Posted by TomV on November 8, 2000, at 11:59:57
In reply to Re: I don't think I can be helped... » TomV, posted by shar on November 7, 2000, at 20:41:14
> I think you posted to the right board. I will agree with other posters that the absolute position of "can't be helped" is one I disagree with. It also depends on what you consider being helped would be like. Ie, a med you could take and feel happy, or talk therapy that would make you happy in a few weeks. I don't believe that will happen.
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> I believe talk therapy, with a good therapist, can be excellent for dealing with grief, and understanding grief and how we sweep it under the carpet in this country. Even reading something like Kubler-Ross "On death and dying" could help. My father died when I was 14, and it took years and years for me to go through the grief.
>**Need a good grief book to read, thanks for the suggestion. I should also mention that I've been in talk/cognitive therapy for the last 4 years also.
> Your experience of depression, as others have said, may or may not be absolutely related to the loss of your father. Probably it is a contributing factor to your depression, but not the cause. Whether it is caused by biology or life experience, there is probably more for you to do in order to be better.
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**Let's just say that I'm certain where my depression "originated" . That's not to say that I haven't had adverse life experience after his death, but that's like comparing a water pistol to a shotgun blast. Everything after his death is a distant secondary issue. The main issue is my inability to deal with the most negative emotions there are.> How about a complete physical, thyroid test, liver function tests, and whatever else you can rule out physically. Then, finding a knowledgeable p-doc, and working on finding a med that will help you and giving it a chance to work. Finally, when your head is above water, I strongly recommend talk therapy, to help you identify and process some of your sadness, and help you recognize that you are also having other feelings in the here and now.
**Had all the tests. I can honestly say that other than my mental health I'm in good physical condition, to the best of my knowledge. Working with a new Pdoc now...
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Best of luck to you. Probably you'll do a fair amount of crying, and that will help your sadness "get out."**I think I've literally cried a river these last 4 years. Sometimes its all I have left.
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