Posted by Racer on November 7, 2000, at 15:18:44
In reply to I don't think I can be helped..., posted by TomV on November 7, 2000, at 14:13:26
I don't agree that some things just can't be helped.
Sorry.
A lot of us have suffered losses in our lives. Grief is terrible. Sometimes it takes years to get through it. Note, please, the wording I used. Grief is something you pass through, not something you can go around.
If you've worked on getting through your grief, and it's still a major problem, something's wrong. Maybe the old losses are excuses you're using to avoid grieving about whatever is really bothering you now. Maybe you've learned a habit of focussing onto your early loss of your father all of the angst that you hit in later life. Maybe you're disatisfied with what you're doing, and your grief is part of your self pity. Maybe you don't really believe that it's OK to find yourself wondering if there isn't something more than this to life, and so you excuse yourself by saying that you lost your father young and can't get over it.
Regardless of the reasons for your continuing grief, sadness or depression, I believe with all my heart, mind and soul that something can be done about it.
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