Posted by Mark H. on November 7, 2000, at 18:04:57
In reply to No. » TomV, posted by Racer on November 7, 2000, at 15:18:44
Dear Tom,
I won't suggest that the death of your father *isn't* a factor in your depression, only that believing it to be the cause may hold you back from healing (we can't undo our early influences, especially the death of a parent).
We get to choose our beliefs, however, and one belief to consider trying on is that the "cause" of depression is completely irrelevant (despite an almost universal desire to understand why something like depression is happening to "me"). Another belief to experiment with is that you can move through this, regardless of what has happened to you in the past.
If these beliefs seem preposterous at the moment, please consider the possibility that they are no more illusory or false than any other belief we have about ourselves, and that they may hold more potential for healing. It's OK to approach them with skepticism, as long as you keep an open mind.
Whether you are ever free of depression or not, I *believe* you can move through your father-grief to a place of deep personal release and freedom. I'd like to know how it goes for you.
Best wishes,
Mark H.
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