Posted by Just Me33 on August 27, 2008, at 15:13:56
I am new here (a very good friend, my closest, actually, told me about this website) and i don't really know where to start.
My friends husband "set me up" sort of with his best friend, I will just call R, who lives in another state. R and I hit it off from the very first night, on the phone. He sent me two dozen roses with a beautiful card just a week later. Th
en, a month later, he flew to meet me and it was fireworks...he was so loving and caring, special, romantic, endearing, emotional...everything was great...he returned home after 6 days and we continued to talk on the phone every day, once in the morning, in the afternoon and two hours at night. Not long after, he began telling his best friend and me that he intended to relocate for several reasons, one being me! he told me and them that he loved me, i was the woman of his dreams, he wanted to marry me, etc...He came BACK to visit to meet my parents, who had flown in from a different state...he asked my dad for permission to marry me, told all my friends how much he loved me, etc...THEN I went to visit him in his home state and it was another fantastic visit.
He has been EXTREMELY stressed and overwhelmed about the move here....I have tried to be very supportive and understanding and patient, but all the while he is getting more and more stressed...we had a misunderstanding where he felt that i had told his friends that he was cheating on me, when I ACTUALLY said that he was talking about this other girl and throwing it in my face and i didn't appreciate it...it got really blown out of proportion and now he has turned his phone off and won't return my calls....it has been two days and i am dying inside....I KNOW it has been only four months, but i cannot begin to explain how intense he is and how our relationship has been...YES, he started moving too fast, but I DO love him and he broke my heart.
Am i wrong to crave closure? Please do not send comments about it being 4 months, as i feel i have already tried to explain myself in regards to that. I have been married and divorced, had a troubled and emotionally abusive relationship and this was the man of my dreams....and my best friends husbands best friend, who, thank the good Lord, are still there for me and very supportive of me and don't know why he is acting like this. please help.
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