Posted by susan47 on September 19, 2008, at 14:07:22
In reply to Re: FIVEFIRES, posted by Just Me33 on September 4, 2008, at 13:27:11
> If you read my post to Susan47, a lot of my issue is this abandonment issue, being alone...I am dying inside and I want to call him so bad and tell him that maybe this WAS partly my fault, because I DO have abandonment issues...then, we could remain talking on the phone (as he lives in a different state) until I am ready to move on....but that would be so terribly wrong! But it would make me feel so good.
>I remember that feeling, keeping him on the phone until I felt able to hang up, able to feel better about my life, the one I still had to live.. without him. Thinking about all the women I am not. Feeling inadequate. Wanting his words to overcome my feelings. Sometimes it worked, but it's a stop-gap only. It will help you sleep that night. The next day is still there; the trick is not to think of the next day, only now.
And you may find out by crawling into his brain that you are sorry you asked. You may have a very minor role right now, and possibly one that would hurt you to know about. We can't be responsible for anyone else's thoughts or feelings; those are self-created and have little to do with us ourselves, as human beings.
I'm sorry to have such a shared experience.
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