Posted by elanor roosevelt on October 7, 2007, at 21:57:25
In reply to Re: Sex again. Sigh. » Dinah, posted by LlurpsieBlossom on January 6, 2007, at 19:30:23
1) ambien helps drop the inhibitions but can be the cause of anorgasmia
2) years back i visited a sex therapist with a man i had been with for many years and had good reason not to trust. but i was choosing to remain with him and wanted to rekindle the sex. the therapist had us go for a number of weeks during which we were not permitted any type of contact with genetalia. At the same time we were encouraged to express affection. this gave me a safety zone that let me open up a bit emotionally
3) in general having it be okay to say no makes it easier to feel like yes
4)there are so many sensual pleasures -- foot rub, scalp massage-- that can be enjoyed as kind of a "let's see if it puts me in the mood" precursor but are also great on their own
5) the big thing is trust. if you are with someone who says or does hurtful things to you, you should see a therapist together
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