Posted by muffled on December 30, 2006, at 23:08:36 [reposted on January 1, 2007, at 21:50:13 | original URL]
In reply to Re: Time for a *sex trigger** thread. Hubby/wife stuff » muffled, posted by Daisym on December 30, 2006, at 22:42:00
> Sometimes I think our little kid selves come out strong when we try to squash them. Perhaps giving yourself permission to feel small and do something you like, like color, or read a story or put a puzzle together.
**Thats a very good suggestion. Not sure what my kid like to do? Mebbe lego? I was a tomboy. Spent most of my time outdoors looking at nature and climbing trees. Physically I not so able now, but I can still look at nature with my own kids, and what a gift to them that is.
But for home stuff...yeah, lego sounds good. I will try it.
I think mebbe my kid got to say some stuff to T, and mebbe someone is beleiving her and might be kind to her or something, and I feel exposed, and so my basic protection (Toughie-like a 12 yr old boy) is around ALOT. My young one, she kinda quashed right now, cuz I real scared of what she feels :(>
> There are lots of ways to show your husband that you love him, it doesn't just have to be sexual. Can you give him a back rub, or cook his favorite breakfast? I like the idea of a hug each day. Intimacy takes many forms. Give yourself a break.**YEAH ! Your totally right, completely! I can't see the forest for the trees.... I will treat my hubby well. I been drawing away from him steadily for quite some time, in ALL ways, but it all boils down to the s. thing.....
Intimacy takes many forms.
And once I tell him NO S. intil I say so, then mebbe I won't be afraid to cuddle at least, as long as he promises NOT to push me AT ALL.
There is hope for SOMEthing anyways...
Thanks Daisy for the pick me up.
Happy New year to you too.
Muffled
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