Posted by Enigma on August 15, 2007, at 10:47:29
In reply to Thread for people with no relationships for life?, posted by Reggie BoStar on December 10, 2006, at 18:28:28
> I haven't had a relationship since the last one ended in total emotional disaster in 1983. At first I found it impossible to go near anyone no matter how hard I tried, then in later years I just stopped trying.
Well, I have severe depression, but luckily for me, I've found a wife willing to stick it out with me. We've been together for 20 years, married for 12, and have 3 kids now. But, I've only been severely depressed for the last 3 years or so.
I know without her and the kids, I'd be long gone. There's just no way I could deal with it. I'm very social, am usually the life of the party, and love to make people laugh.
My problem is that I have no good friends. I have a few people that if I keep contacting them over and over again, I might garner one night out of drinking over the course of 2 weeks to a month. These people let me down SO many times that I only tried to stay in contact with them because I was so sickeningly lonely, even with my family around.
I got sick of their BS, so I tried what I call, "The friendship test". I intentionally broke off all communication with these clowns and guess what happened? They ALL failed. Not a single one, over the course of many months now, has contacted me in any way, no phone, no text message, no email.
They ALL work at my old job (which I got kicked out of, for health reasons), and we *used* to see each-other all the time, go out to lunch together as a group just about every day, and had lots of during work and after work bar-outings.
I'm so upset over the situation, it's insane. I can't go out alone, as it just makes me more depressed, and the whole point of going out was to talk, laugh, tell stories, and drink, usually.
I'm upset that I have no other guys to hang out with anymore, and upset how they all abandoned me, especially when they all knew how sick I was.
Anyway, I know you are talking about romantic relationships, I think, but I thought I'd chime this in anyway. Was gonna start a new thread, until I saw yours. Maybe I'll make a new one anyway.
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