Posted by maree on May 14, 2008, at 6:03:43
In reply to Re: Thread for people with no relationships for life?, posted by Phillipa on September 22, 2007, at 23:56:18
OK Phillipa, you have had A LOT of bad luck, BUT, it was not caused by your relationship, it was caused by your ill health. If you were still living alone, you would still have a thyroid problem, and be unemployed, and, I do not know what your hobbies were, but it is possible with the fatigue and weakness caused by the thyroid, you would not be able to do those things, either, so not only would you be in a similar situation, BUT you would also be alone a lot; even just a warm body around the house who does not speak can give you company. As well, you would lose the respect of society in general since you would be a lonely single, and I can tell you that puts you right at the bottom of the social ladder. You are looking at your YOUTH through rose coloured glasses. Our health has a MAJOR impact on our happiness, and living alone is the last complete segment of your life when you can remember that you were healthy and happy, AND, remember, the last few months of your singledom were made happier with the knowledge that you were about to be married.. Your thoughts of your marriage have been coloured by your ill health, so, marriage, by itself does not give you happiness, in retrospect.
And, yes, I do know what you are going through, I was living with the man of my dreams when I was permanently disabled by a stroke, I have often wondered whether I would not be better off living in my own home (which I have still l retained), and not having to put up with his nastiness, and disappointment at having a social reject as his partner, not to mention MY guilt at the knowledge that I am ruining his life. I have wondered about this, but, then, I realised how much the last 12 years have impacted badly on the happiness that I once found with my partner.
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