Posted by madeline on December 15, 2006, at 18:01:42
In reply to Thread for people with no relationships for life?, posted by Reggie BoStar on December 10, 2006, at 18:28:28
You know this is a really interesting question.
I won't say that I have necessarily consciously chosen to be without a significant relationship, but some of my actions would strongly suggest that I have unconsciously done so.
Frankly, I get lonely only very rarely. I feel very safe in my house, and I doubt I would feel that kind of security if someone else were here.
I guess I've just never been a "hey let's get together and date" kind of chic - although I have certainly dated and have dumped and been dumped myself.
I have a really full life that I must admit I truly truly love. I ride horses, I play with tigers, I teach, I work, I write. Whenever I can, however, I like to just lie around. I have pets. I like peace and quiet.
For me, there really hasn't been a question of how I manage being alone - it's SOP for me. It's more like a question of "how to manage when someone else is there".
I don't have to answer to anybody for what I do, and I don't have to make allowances for other people. It may sound selfish, but I REALLY like that.
The only thing that bugs me is the expectation people have that we are supposed to be with someone. I simply can not understand why people think that (and I don't want to debate it here). Everyone is different.
Maddie
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