Posted by Reggie BoStar on December 15, 2006, at 19:47:36
In reply to Re: Thread for people with no relationships for life? » Reggie BoStar, posted by madeline on December 15, 2006, at 18:01:42
Hi Madeline,
Good to hear from you. Yes, that's exactly the kind of message I was looking for.I don't think you're selfish at all. As you said, it just happens to be SOP for you and it works.
I try to do the same things with activities to fill my life. I have a few really smart cats who are more than enough company around here. You're right about that feeling of "security" and how it is compromised when someone else is around. Even when my parents are staying overnight for a visit, I feel uncomfortable because is some ways it interferes with normal life. Of course I love them very much, but this is one of those family relationships where we all prefer to live apart and just visit occasionally. It works for us.
My other hobbies are genealogy and managing a related website (which all by itself can occupy a lifetime!) and computer audio/video (making home-recorded DVD's, etc). Walking is my primary recreation - this is a great area for that. A disability keeps me from doing much more than that physically and mentally, but I own and live in a duplex so the rental income helps with the housing expenses. Because I can't work very well, I just hire all the duplex maintenance out and pay the contractors with the rental income. It just makes ends meet, which is all I want to do.
Like relationships, I had my flings with being "upwardly mobile" too, and I can do without it. If fact, being "upwardly" is what put me out of action when it comes to employment.
One of your activities flew off the page at me: "play with tigers".
Are these the real ones, you know, the Bengal types that play with their human prey like cats play with mice before finally devouring them?
Just curious!
Seriously, it was great to hear from you, Madeline, and especially to hear how you manage your life. As far as people who think you should be in a relationship are concerned, I'm unfortunately finding out the hard way that the only way to deal with them is to try to ignore them.
Anal retentives never change. It's their life. The best we can do is continue "our live and let live" philosophy and try to keep the meddlers at bay.
Take care and have a great holiday season (and say a cautious "Hi" to those tigers for me),
Reggis BoStar
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