Posted by one woman cine on February 9, 2007, at 8:50:58
In reply to Re: How do you deal with feeling manipulated?, posted by zenhussy on February 8, 2007, at 21:21:35
Yeah, feeling manipulated - it is a bear - your post makes perfect sense, thanks for saying it in such a cogent way.
I seem to have picked up a few manipulators -
"coping mechanisms? arming oneself with as much information as possible as to just what one might be dealing with when it comes to feeling manipulated----is it from a coworker who tries to guilt you into carrying his load? is it when your mother calls and you're not able to talk yet you can't hang up either due to her chosen topic? is it even more subtle than that?"
there are manipulators and then there are gold *star* manipulators.
Sometimes I think the best defense for me is not speaking at all. Making myself scarce - because it feels nothing I say will make any difference at all. & in fact, speaking will give fuel to the fire. I feel helpless and become hopeless, which just isn't necessarily real. Or healthy.
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