Posted by zenhussy on February 8, 2007, at 21:21:35
In reply to How do you deal with feeling manipulated?, posted by one woman cine on February 7, 2007, at 8:05:09
tools....gaining and mastering tools to better cope when faced with recognizing one is being manipulated.
learning exit strategies is one way for sure.
it can be a feeling of foolishness when the recognition comes but often manipulation is used on those most suceptible to it---survivors of PTSD, depressed, mentally diseased/disordered. sometimes folks are hypervigilant to the ability to uncannily peg ppl's motives when they sense or witness manipulation. other folks tend to be slow on the uptake as it were due in part to their own PTSD reactions being set off.
coping mechanisms? arming oneself with as much information as possible as to just what one might be dealing with when it comes to feeling manipulated----is it from a coworker who tries to guilt you into carrying his load? is it when your mother calls and you're not able to talk yet you can't hang up either due to her chosen topic? is it even more subtle than that?
once identified as to what feels manipulative and as to why it might be that way it is easier for us to decide which method to employ in specific situations. we'd not speak the same way to someone we felt was hostile as part of our exit strategy as we would to someone meek (but manipulative) from whom we sensed no physical harm or explosive anger.
does any of that make sense?
feeling manipulated is a bear. it can be so hard to find vocabulary adequate enough to describe our feelings on the subject as they run deep.
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