Posted by AuntieMel on June 25, 2006, at 11:08:39
In reply to Upset Confused! *trigger domestic violence*, posted by corafree on June 24, 2006, at 18:26:47
I know this has to be tough for you. Really, really tough.
But - for *your* sake - let your daughter enjoy her first baby. If that means forcing yourself to be civil, that is what it means.
The kids, along with you, suffered. And they aren't blind. And they won't forget, believe me.
If you can't be around him, then don't go to the hospital. Remember what it was like after just having a baby? She's probably so tired it won't matter too much anyway. A phone call and flowers should be enough.
Then go visit her after she gets home with the baby and he isn't there.
Just don't tell her why you waited. Tell her you wanted to be there when she got home so you could be more help. Or tell her you just couldn't get away right then.
But - please - remember that they, too, have suffered and she just wants to enjoy her baby right now.
And that is the biggest gift you can give her.
And you will thank yourself later, and feel better about yourself, by letting her have that gift.
poster:AuntieMel
thread:661077
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