Posted by jazzmine on March 4, 2006, at 6:44:04
In reply to Re: is it being selfish or just feeling guilty (long), posted by Tanzanite on March 3, 2006, at 19:08:37
First thank you so much for responding to my post.I hope you know how much it ment to check in here and find someone really read it and responded. To start we are not married,which makes no difference as far as I'm concerned but to other people it seems too.We don't communicate well.It is my understanding that he has always been this way from talking to members of his family I have just got to know.The thing that bothers me the most is he doesn't try at all,I don't expect him to do everything,but I also know the moree you sit the more your going to want to sit and you loose muscel so it does become more and more of an effort to do things.
I guess what i'm really trying to say is if you truley love someone don't you try to do what ever you can to help them? If feel so guilty at times resenting him for not helping.I work a job where I am on my feet 10 hours a day and on my days off I have everything at home to do,(which I tell myself I would be doing if I lived alone ,so whats the big deal with it).How do you tell someone that is sick you think they are lazy?
I was down a couple weeks ago with I think a touch of the flu. He never so much as once even asked If i needed so much as a drink.
It would help if once in awhile we could do something together,(fishing,garage sales,flee market,or the beach which is about 2 hours away)I don't mean spending alot of money just getting out and doing something fun together maybe once a month. He knows how I feel about that and there is always some excuse why we can't.
I'm sorry this sounds so bitchy and maybe I shouldn't be putting on here,but it does help to be able to just sit and babble on like someone is listening and maybe does care.
Again thankYou so much for reading and responding Tanzanite it helped to know someone knows a little of the way I am feeling. I would love to hear more from you and maybe get to know you more and more about you who knows we may become good friends which would be nice.Again thank you and if I am makeing these post to long someone please let me know.
Jazzmine
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