Posted by jazzmine on March 3, 2006, at 17:24:55
I am new to all this,but in some real need of ans.I have been involved with a man and living together for 3 years now. We are in our early 50's.I do love him but I have to say at times more than not I don't like him.He is a decent man,not in good health. He has rheumatoid arthritis. In march of 2005 he had a heart attack and a stint put in. in December of 2005 we found out he has prostate cancer and is now in his 5th week of radiation treatment.What my problem is he is on disability and has been for about 15 years now.All he does is sit in front of the T.V. I work full time,which does not bother me.What bothers me is everything is left up to me to do, housework,yard work,everything. He had a boat when we got together and alwasy says he loves fishing so do I, But we never go there is always an excuse.I have gotten so I resent him sitting day after day when I know he can do more. I'm not talking about getting a job. I'm talking about doing around the house to help out so it isn't all left up to me.I don't say anything because when I get ready to I start feeling guilty about feeling this way.Am I expecting to much? I have started getting depressed about life. It seems all there is is work, and feeling guilty about wanting more.Wanting to live life a little.Wanting someoone that is willing to get out annd do a few things besides the T.V. Good thing part of the name of this group is babble because I think thats what I have just done alot of. But it felt good just getting it out so thank you to anyone who took the time to read this
Jazzmine
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