Posted by caraher on November 23, 2005, at 8:34:50
In reply to Re: ..the male libido- where oh where does it hide?, posted by sunny10 on November 23, 2005, at 7:42:53
It could be any of a number of things, many of which have already been suggested. One thing I'd toss in is timing. We usually have time alone at the end of the day, and so often by then either or both of us are simply too tired to care.
I think Alexandra's suggestion to discuss it is a good one. If you're engaged you can certainly presume mutual sexual interest. Just be sure to ask questions in a compassionate, rather than accusatory, spirit. Is it something you should do differently, or is he having some problems? Can you help him with any of them? If not, you can at least express sympathy and remind him that you hope for him to overcome them. Just don't frame it in terms of his somehow failing in an obligation toward you... nothing is less sexy than sex as a "duty," for men or women!
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