Posted by Damos on October 30, 2005, at 15:17:03
In reply to male/female friendships are hard, posted by happyflower on October 26, 2005, at 21:58:20
Hi Happyflower,
I'm sorry you're being hurt by this but please rest assured that you've done nothing wrong here. There are all kinds of dynamics going on that you have no control over.
Possibly he probably didn't think you're going was a big deal and so didn't mention it. Or thought that if he did his wife would make all kinds of assumptions and judgements and there'd be a barny regardless of the truth. While his wife thought he didn't mention it so he must be hiding something blah, blah, blah. And of course there may be history on both sides that you don;t know about.
So please don't take this on yourself okay. I think it's great that you've taken up pyour instrument again and that you're trying for something that's important to you and that you're trying to build friendships. What happened is about them - not you. Hopefully the dust will settle in a little while and things will work themselves out.
poster:Damos
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