Posted by Tamar on October 23, 2005, at 20:18:53
In reply to Re: Don't want to kill the VIBRATOR thread..., posted by caraher on October 23, 2005, at 20:03:05
> Just to toss in my own viewing habits ;)
:)
> I like to look at what pleases me, not what displeases me. By contrast, so often women are highly self-critical about their bodies and focus obsessively on whatever they think are their least appealing features. When you do that you're certainly not seeing yourself the way I would see you, and I'd imagine the same goes for how most other people would see you as well.
That’s probably true… and it would account for all sort of events that surprised me immensely…
> Having grown up with three sisters and currently married to an... ummm... "outspoken" woman, I'd also like to add that the women I've known have far keener eyes when it comes to spotting "flaws" in other women than I do, and I don't think I'm exceptionally unobservant.
Yeah. I think we women can be our own worst enemies. I must admit I’m not keen on spotting flaws in other women except on the few occasions when I’m feeling particularly cr*p about myself, and somehow seeing someone with a flabbier tummy than I have can make me feel better about myself. It’s not helpful, really, because (a) there aren’t many women who look more postpartum than I do, and (b) men don’t notice that stuff anyway; they’re too busy looking at my amazing breasts (tee hee).
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