Posted by Annierose on September 28, 2005, at 18:38:17
In reply to Re: physical affection » sleepygirl, posted by crazy teresa on September 28, 2005, at 12:36:22
I agree with the above posters. Listen to that YELLOW FLAG that is screaming inside your head. Marriage will only exaggerate all of your concerns. And the sexual relationship you desire will not happen just because he has a ring on his finger. He is defensive for a reason. Something is bothering him (and it's not YOU). He is avoiding intimacy, you need to find out why. Maybe you'll be great friends for a long long time, but in a marriage, sex is an important element (even though I struggle with frequent sex myself ... it's way more than 2x per year).
Are you still in therapy? I would continue to talk about this with your T if you are. I'm glad you have not set a date yet. You are right to have concerns. Our inner voice seldom leads us astray.
Thinking of you and wishing you the best of luck.
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