Posted by fairywings on October 10, 2005, at 23:22:19
In reply to physical affection, posted by sleepygirl on September 27, 2005, at 21:51:54
I'd say, from what you've said, marriage is not a good idea with this man. If he's physically and emotionally unresponsive, and he's even "cold", then do you really want to commit to him? If, on the other hand, you're really in love with him, and he'll do intensive, very intensive couples therapy with the best therapist you can find, then maybe you can work it out, otherwise you might want to rethink marrying him.
My dh and I have been married almost 20 years, I cant' imagine making it through the tough times w/someone who's cold. You will need someone to be your partner, to love you and cherish you and your marriage, someone to hold you and make you feel wanted. Plus someone who's cold and unresponsive, isn't the kind of person you want to be a father to any kids you might have, is it?
I don't blame you for craving touch, everyone NEEDs touch! Go get a massage! Sounds like you could use it!
fw
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