Posted by crazy teresa on September 28, 2005, at 12:36:22
In reply to physical affection, posted by sleepygirl on September 27, 2005, at 21:51:54
I hate to tell you, sleepy, but marriage is REALLY hard. If all he does is get defensive and is unwilling to try to solve any issues you are bringing up now, he certainly won't be changing just because you've gotten married. If anything, he may be less inclined to do anything once he has the security of marriage.
Quite honestly, when life really sucks, sometimes the only thing worth looking forward to is getting into bed with my husband. It puts things into perspective. You start to remember what is important in life. That's the one thing that can make me feel better, loved, worthy, important, etc., when I feel the opposite from the rest of the world.
As hard as it may be, move on. Even if you'd never had sex with him, the attitude you've described is not one I'd want to saddle myself with for the rest of my life.
crazy t
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