Posted by Dinah on August 7, 2005, at 17:54:21
In reply to Re: Question about sexual etiquette » Dinah, posted by Tamar on August 7, 2005, at 16:29:41
You'd never know it from here, but I'm not so good at talking with my husband. Not about anything of substance. Certainly not about sex. It's kind of like with my mother. We talk about things or people but never ever about us. I guess it's not healthy for a relationship, but I've discovered it is much much healthier for *me*.
I do try to communicate through actions. Like I find sex much less scary when I'm either prepared mentally or I initiate it. Since my husband likes to have me initiate it I manage to do that most of the time. Or I really don't like kissing, so I make sure my mouth is always otherwise occupied. He likes that as well, so it's not a problem. And it's much easier than saying I don't like kissing. Which he actually knows but prefers to ignore.
I guess that's not the best way to go about it, but it's so hard to word those things in a way that sustains a good relationship.
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