Posted by Uncle Lou on June 15, 2005, at 22:45:19
In reply to Re: divorce after sobriety, posted by Susan47 on June 14, 2005, at 23:04:37
I'm in no hurry to force anything. That's my biggest point of frustration with the whole situation. I feel my wife has shut me out from her life so long that I don't know her anymore, and I've changed so much during that time, she certainly doesn't know me. She has every right to feel angry, hurt, let down ... whatever she feels. It really hurts that she won't let me support her during this. I just think that to force a divorce at this point is wrong, considering the fact that we have 2 kids who deserve better than that. I honestly feel that we haven't given it our best shot, and the kids will suffer the results of this for a long long time. I'm wasn't asking to just stop the divorce and pretend everything is fixed; I realize it will take the committed effort of 2 people to work things out. The kind of commitment I thought we made to each other on our wedding day. I did not become an alcohilic by choice, but I did make a choice to seek recovery. If your vision is coloured differently, maybe you should try on a bunch of different glasses. That's all I'd like my wife to do. I know my perspective of alot of things changed when I did, and I'm still willing to try on more.
poster:Uncle Lou
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