Posted by Uncle Lou on June 12, 2005, at 22:40:11
In reply to Re: divorce after sobriety, posted by Susan47 on June 12, 2005, at 14:00:16
Thanks for your feedback. As I'm 'growing up' in sobriety it's amazing the new perspective I have about a lot of things. For the first time in my life I know the difference between feeling upset or hurt and being depressed. Yesterday was a real crappy day, I talked things out with some friends, and today was a good day. Today I was thinking: She put up with me and my immature alcoholic BS for 15 years, and decides it's over after I get recovery and start to grow up. What does that say about her mental/emotional state? What about her level of maturity? I think she's running away from me to avoid looking at herself. If I'm getting better and still around her, who else can she blame her misery on? There can't possibly be anything wrong with her, I'm the one with the alcoholism. It's all starting to become clearer now but it still hurts to see her go through this. I've heard that denial of reality by a spouse of an alcoholic can be stronger than the denial an active alcoholic has about his drinking. I wish I could help her remove her blinders, but the more I try, the more narrow her vision becomes.
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