Posted by Susan47 on May 23, 2005, at 20:55:50
In reply to Re: trigger » Susan47, posted by sunny10 on May 23, 2005, at 15:04:45
Well, I don't think it's fair to ask anybody else to take responsibility for our thoughts. So if I'm really thinking about killing myself, and I tell someone, and they don't stop me, that doesn't make it their fault that I killed myself. So I guess it's kind of the same if I don't kill myself, that still isn't their fault that I'm miserable. I mean, how can anybody help me if I can't communicate and if I don't do that then how can anyone be to blame? No. As long as you suffer in silence, you'll suffer alone. We still have a responsibility to ourselves. We can't be dishonest, but if withholding and isolating are part of the problem, that's not something anybody else can change we have to do it ourselves. So she might know you isolate etc., but she can't be made responsible for you. She can't pull the words out of you with a pitchfork. What do you want her to do, crawl down your throat and yank the words out? No. You have to do that yourself. You know it or you wouldn't even be thinking about it the way you are. IMO. Now I'm getting out of town before the blast comes. Because I'm mean today. I'm feeling quite frustrated. So I'm sorry if I have it all mixed up. I probably do. I'm just venting.
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